The Reality of Speed Dating

The Reality of Speed Dating

Really appreciate those catering and beverage friends who urge me to host speed dating in their restaurants with heaps of funny ideas on the event gimmicks and fancies. Their passion on this really impresses me and makes me think seriously on the solution of integrity and quality of matchmaking in such kind of dating form.

It is said that speed dating was invented for retaining the pure breed of Jews. As the ethnicity, nationhood, and living habits of this ethnoreligious group is quite unique in style, Jewish parents prefer their next generation be married to the same orthodox Jews for a more compatible marriage future. They arrange group meeting for their grown-up children to meet multiple targets and set practical rules of dating such as limited minutes of chatting in order to avoid dominance of time on attractive ones by any, scoring paper for taking notes of preferred ones, and fast turnaround of all targets for an efficient glance. We may find such witty personality traits of Jewish in this meeting form.

The popularity of speed dating has bought my clients to some funny sharing of experience. A girl has ever elaborated her personal view to me on the arrangement of speed dating which was also a main income stream of her close friends. One has ever disclosed to her a terrible proportion of 1:30 of male and female in a natural event registration. In order to get a more balanced participation of sexes, the organizers of speed dating may invite males as counterfeiters without verifying their marital status and real background. Moreover, they also overstate the job background of the real participants for a better image presentation, say turning the title of “rental manager” working for a private trust to “private fund manager”, and “private tutor” to “Tutor King”.

It is also not a big fuss that female models are hired by the organizers to attend their dating events. Innocent boys may find them fail to date those good-looking girls individually even though they are told that those girls have scored them high in the event. As invitation and attendance of hotties and artists are also a kind of promotion, the intention of participants can be vague in speed dating.

As a strong asymmetric information on the background, quality, and intention of the organizers and participants presents, a high matchmaking immorality risk must be expected. In such a dating game with the nature of game theory, the honest female members must be caution on the identity of the male members. So applies to the males on their attention of questionable acts of beautiful females. Meeting up high quality potential spouse can be a big delusion for both sexes. For a safer play, they may consider focusing on the fairer-quality participants for a better harvest of dating and avoid spending time and effort on those suspicious perks.

For a quicker filling of vacancies in speed dating, organizers usually accept every claimed single ones without filtering the basic background such as their age. So the mixed basket of candidates is always annoying to the present ones. Such inefficient match-up therefore discourages a long-term trust between the organizers and the participants. That also explains why the people usually avoid speed dating after 1 to 2 attendances and shift their attention to a more serious matchmaking form.

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Yvonne Yung is the founder of an international marriage matchmaking agency named Professionals’ Matchmaking Consultation Co. Ltd. which specially caters the love matching need of professionals of both local Hong Kong and overseas foreign clients. With a background of life-soul counseling, suicide psychology, surrealism, and critical realism in solid bank finance career, her extensive scope of life view brings pointed remark of people and relationship. She is an MBA holder with her basic Degree of Commerce, major Economics, from The University of Melbourne.